I have seen many memes posted on Facebook the last while, that reinforce the idea that ”I am busy and so are you, so if you don’t hear from me for while, it isn’t important. We are still close friends.”
Not! Since when did our personal lives and busyness take over from nurturing close relationships?
In what universe do you live, that you believe that you can just remove yourself from an acquantantices life, and then pop back in whenever it is convenient for you and expect that you will be welcomed with joy and acceptantance?
Do you believe that a relationship deserves that kind of ignoring?
Does a husband and wife, or wife and wife or husband and husband accept that sort of ignoring?
Of course not!
And what makes anyone think that a friendship is any different?
Because – it isn’t.
If you aren’t prepared to spend time and energy on working on a relationship – whether it be a couple situation, a relative situation or a friendship, how can you be so self absorbed as to expect that person will be there for you, will be willing to wait for you, until you are ready to get around to contacting them?
No. Any relationship requires commitment, empathy, and involvement.
If you can’t offer that to another, in a relationship of any kind, then you are too selfish to deserve the caring and loyalty and friendship of another human being.
I was in a very bad place in late 1971, and this song was so very appropriate. And still is today.
Isn’t this what you really feel, isn’t this the real feelings that you have? It’s time to stop hiding our feelings and be honest.